What should i get done? Please help?...?

If you want to stretch your ears by yourself, go for it a lot of people do, just use a taper and clean it prior to stretching. Also, if you dont want your mom to notice only stretch every two months or so and dont use tunnels use the plugs that look like little buttons so theyre less noticable to your mother. And tell her, that as long as you only go to like a 2 or 0 they will grow back once you remove the jewelry. As for piercing something on your face yourself, i do not advise that at all.